I don't normally blog about personal stuff being quite a private person but feel the need to pass on some sad personal news to my regular blog readers.
There is no easy way of saying this, after 20 years together and 19 years of marriage in October Nicola decided to leave me. We have had relationship issues for several years with 2 sessions of counseling at Relate. I have the utmost respect and love for Nicola and had hoped to work through our problems and spend the rest of our lives together but it seems that it is not to be.
We are still good friends and are working to keep as stable a family life as we can for our children. Closer friends have known this news for a while but particularly over the Christmas period we have been getting lots of messages addressed to Robin, Nicola and family and folk looking forward to meeting us both on courses this year hence the need to put the sad news out more publicly.
It has been a difficult time for everyone but we managed a happy family Christmas together and look forward to happier times in 2011.
23 comments:
Hey Robin sorry to hear your sad news. There's never a good time to split .Take care mate :)
Thanks Brian. In many ways I feel to have failed on the biggest and most important task in life keeping ones family together and happy. We carry on working to make things as good as they can be in the circumstances. Time in the workshop doing hard physical work is good therapy.
It's always sad when a family breaks up. Best wishes for both of you in the future.
Sad for you and yours. But life continues and children will grow with two parents ... and, two houses !
Very sad to hear that Robin, I sincerely hope things turn out well for all concerned.
Sad to hear your news, Robin. It is an upheaval for sure. I don't know how old your children are, but kids are resilient and will come to term with this in their own time and ways.
All the best.
Joel
Robin my heart goes out to you, went through the same thing myself a couple of years ago and it all gets better with time, in fact it helped to develop my relationship with my daughter, best wishes for 2011 and sorry to hear the bad news
Nellybelly
Robin, I am so sorry to hear this. It's a very painful and heartbreaking thing to go through. Love and hugs. Kari
So sorry Robin...hang in there and stay friends if you can, it will help your children come to terms with the situation..having been there I know how upsetting it is...and the feeling of failure.You will come through, take care
Jude
I'm very sorry to know you are going through this. My family and I will be praying for you.
I'm sorry to hear this Robin. I will be praying for healing for you guys.
Sorry to hear your sad news but hopeful that things will work out OK for you all.
With appreciation for all you two have accomplished, and will continue to.
Best,
Tico Vogt
With appreciation for all you two have accomplished, and will continue to.
Best,
Tico Vogt
Sad news, but wish you all the best. Sometimes accepting the inevitable and preserving friendship is the best way forward...
Best wishes Shani
Dear Robin
I'm very sorry to hear your news. I have very happy memories from my spoon-carving days in June and it was a pleasure learning from you and meeting you and your family. I hope you can work things out.
With very best wishes to all of you for 2011.
It is never easy in circumstances like these, and I wish you all the best in dealing with your new and changed lives.
Robin Wood said...
Thanks for all the helpful and kind comments and emails folk have sent. It is good to hear from folk that have personal experience of similar situations and have managed to rebuild happy stable situations for their family. We seem to be doing pretty well really. Family has always been my first priority and part of my choice of lifestyle. Many fathers working long hours see little of their children I feel fortunate to have shared caring for our children equally. Nicola and I have always worked well together on all sorts of projects and continue to do so. I am confident that we can make 2011 a good year for us all.
Sorry to hear your news Robin, it's never an easy thing to go through, for either party.
My best wishes to you both for whom i have the utmost respect.
Take care
All the best
Mark
Wow Robin, this is heartbreaking to hear. I'm so sorry and I wish both of your the best. My brother went through this and he will say that it was for the best now. Staying friends was huge for his kids and now everyone seems much happier. I only hope it will work the same for you. God bless.
One of the girls on my daughters soccer team comes from a "broken" home. Prior to the parents divorce, the home was truly broken. Now, the parents are friends, sharing custody and are both very involved with their little girl. It may not seem like it at the present, but these things can be for the better.
Be well.
Very hard news to hear, Robin. I have survived it (that's what it feels like at times). Please hear from me again that life, love, and family continue on throughout. I will be keeping you and yours in my prayers.
Just catching up on your writing after only sporadic reading and found this. I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you and to her and your children. I continue to pray for you all, and my best hopes go with you.
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